Category: Self Care

The Art of Scruffy Hospitality

There’s this thing called scruffy hospitality, where you invite your friends over, you don’t pick up your house, everyone brings a leftover dish or some cheese and crackers and you just hang out and enjoy each other. That’s the way to live life.  Scruffy hospitality means you’re not waiting for everything in

Are Your Self-Paradigms Keeping You From Happiness?

par·a·digm noun A self-paradigm is the ways we look at ourselves and the world around us. It’s the lens through which we make sense of our experiences and assign motivation to other’s actions. It’s basically a set of mental glasses we see the world through. But what if those glasses

How to Say NO (and still keep your friends)

It sounds so simple.  It’s a two-letter word. It’s one of the first words we learn, and as children, we use it constantly.  But as we get older, no becomes more difficult to say. As we develop things like empathy and a sense of how our actions impact others, no

Anxiety Protocol; How to Stop Anxiety in its Tracks

There are two different types of anxiety as far as I’m concerned.  There’s the everyday underlying anxiety that’s just there in the back of your mind, not necessarily showing itself, but you know it’s there. And then there’s the anxiety spiral – that panic-inducing anxiety that stops you in your

Turning Off the News

There are countless things I learned from my therapist, but the biggest one for me at the beginning of my anxiety journey was learning to turn off the news. I was becoming overwhelmed by what was going on in the world and I was being crushed under the weight of

Finding the Right Therapist

When I first started having panic attacks, I had some really crappy therapists.  At first, I had a hard time accepting going to therapy. Not only was there a certain stigma attached to it, I didn’t feel like anyone could help me. If I wanted to learn something about anxiety,